Our biggest challenge now might be to manage anxiety and fear, and to keep centered.
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May we all find our way out of this to a world more like we remember. Sending peace, love, light your way.
A reader suggested I write about how to handle it when you’ve caught yourself being judge-y (after reading this post last month)
Here’s her comment:
Maybe you could do a follow-up post on how to handle it when you’ve caught yourself being judgey, especially if you’ve said the snarky comment out loud (& maybe hurt someone’s feelings). We all do it….
Is it ok to be human? is her real question. And what do we do about it? The answer is in the word BE.
Being judge-y is being human. Sure, we’d all like to be evolved and so spiritually oriented that we don’t judge. But hey, we’re human! And don’t I know it, too.
I’ve done things that I regret, that I’m embarrassed about, said things I wish I hadn’t. I’m guilty of being human. So here’s what I do and maybe you’ll find something in that:
- If an apology is necessary, I do it. Without any hedging. We almost always know when we’ve hurt someone and usually we do not intend it. So I apologize. “I’m sorry” is so powerful a sentence.
- If clarification is needed, I might say “That didn’t come out right. What I meant to say is…” or “I don’t know what that means, let me try again.” Or, “that was really bitchy and I didn’t mean it to be. What I really mean is…”
- Avoid using “but” … as in “I’m sorry but…” or ” I didn’t mean it, but…” The word “but” negates everything that came before it.
- Here’s a big one for me. NEVER say “I’m sorry you feel that way.” It is such a hot button when I hear it–because it puts the onus on the other person, not ourselves. What I really want to hear is ownership: “I’m sorry I hurt you.”
- Did I mention that we should certainly not judge ourselves for being human? That really is the crux of the message Baba Ram Dass brought to us in that quote. We say things to ourselves we would never say to a friend. Being kind to ourselves, not beating ourselves up –no need to do that. Because we are ALL human!
- None of us is perfect. Allow yourself to be human, in all its messiness. Don’t beat yourself up.
My father was super-intolerant of mistakes and that’s how I was raised. But as I grew up, I realized this: It’s ok to make mistakes. Just make it right when you can.
So that’s my answer. What do you think? What do YOU do when you completely step in it
This is my year of love bombing, as you know if you follow me. Wouldn’t it be a great world if everyone did this? And it doesn’t have to cost a cent. It can be 100% free. Here are some wonderful love bombs:
Give a compliment to someone every day.
Compliment someone’s smile. Tell them what a bright light they are (if they are). Tell them how much you love being in their company. How much you appreciate what they bring to their work, to the world, to their friends–how much you appreciate THEM.
Hold the door for someone every time you can.
Simple thing. A kindness, really.
Let cars stuck in traffic go ahead of you.
Drop by to see someone who is sick or grieving. Call, first, though.
Send a real card to someone who needs a lift. Dollar store cards are 50 cents but if you have some in your card file, it’s almost free. Well, postage. But you get the drift. Yes, you can send an email but it is so beautiful to get a handwritten note on a card.
If you see a mom struggling with a cranky kid, ask if you can help.
Let someone with fewer items than you go ahead of you in the grocery line.
Offer to walk someone’s dog a few times if they need help.
Call someone you haven’t talked to in a long time just to say hello.
Cook a meal for someone who is sick or grieving. Or a harried mom.
Pick some flowers from your garden and give them to someone for no reason at all. Just because.
Invite someone for tea or coffee at your home for no reason or because they might need to talk.
Walk a shelter dog if your local shelter or rescue has a program.
If you’ve been really busy, love up on your dog or cat for no reason at all–just because they love love.
It’s time we all looked up from our phones and became aware of what’s going on around us. Opportunities to love bomb are everywhere. If you love-bomb every day, you’ll be happier and you’ll make a better world. Imagine if everyone did this?
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View your life with kindsight.
Instead of asking “What was I thinking?”
pause and ask the kinder question:
“What was I learning?”
I love this. Kindsight.
Maybe like me, you’ve had a bunch of occasions in life when you made decisions that perhaps didn’t turn out so well.
I’m lucky (ahem) enough to have had a few trusted friends who haven’t been afraid to ask “What were you thinking?” Ok maybe more like “WTF were you thinking?” And there’s a purpose to that. I want friends like that.
But it’s not useful to berate ourselves for actions of the past. Looking at our actions with love and asking the kinder question, “What was I learning?” is brilliant.
This works also for grief and illness.
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You may not know that my friend actually used the very first (and very crude) version of the healing affirmations during her last illness. One day when I was visiting her at Stanford Medical Center she turned to me and said, “You need to make these and sell them. They are so helpful!”
After she died, three years ago this month, that’s exactly what I did.
Grief affirmation deck: 50 supportive, helpful cards.
It’s a big thing to me, this honoring of their memory. And I wanted to make sure your loved ones who are either healing or grieving have the same benefit my friend did.
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