Can you grieve what you never had?

Can you grieve what you never had?

Some people think it’s not possible to truly grieve something you never had.  I don’t agree. Grief over what you never had is as powerful an emotion as any other loss. Because all loss is the same. All grief is the same. And that’s where we’ll...

How to view your life with kindsight

View your life with kindsight. Instead of asking “What was I thinking?” pause and ask the kinder question: “What was I learning?” _Karen Salmansohn I love this. Kindsight. Maybe like me, you’ve had a bunch of occasions in life when you...

My guru has joined the other angels

Photo Credit: Carol Cassara / Maui / Dec. 2018 He is as close to a guru as I will ever have, a guiding figure, a sage, an angel on earth and a generational influence we will never see again.  Guru: one who removes the darkness. A gateway to God. Ram Dass has joined...
Do you wonder why the world’s still there?

Do you wonder why the world’s still there?

The most startling thing about heartbreak is …noticing that the world didn’t actually end. * After my dear friend died I’d sit and look at the mountains and wonder why they were still standing. Why the sun came up and went down without her. Why the...
How reaching out is soul food

How reaching out is soul food

I love soul food and consume it as much as possible—which is to say when I see a chance to reach out and support someone, I will. Always. And I know many of you do the same thing. Look around. Someone you know is brought low by grief or fighting a battle for...