Those who try to tear your wings,
don’t know how to fly, themselves.
-m.s.
Someone I know made our ongoing relationship contingent on my making peace with another person.
The truth is that the state of “not peace” with the other was never my doing. The truth is that I had reached out many times over several decades to “make peace.” The truth is that each effort was rebuffed, and not just rebuffed, but refused, ungraciously and, sometimes, nastily.
So when the first person told me of the contingency I said I wouldn’t do it. Flat out, NO. That the second person did not wish me well and in fact, wished me harm, something I knew for a fact because they had told me. Because there were years of cruel little jabs, nasty digs. Purposeful. They made clear they didn’t want me to fly high.
I said there was no benefit to reaching out yet again and that I refused to be that person’s punching bag.
I did not add that in a session with my favorite medium, Hollister Rand, my spirit guides were extremely specific about this situation without my even giving them details. “This is not your circus and they aren’t your monkeys,” they told me. “Step out and don’t go back in.” This was repeated in a session with another medium, without my even asking. So I felt on pretty solid ground.
Not everything can be resolved and that’s ok.
When I saw the butterfly quote above, I thought it applied. When people want to tear you down, it’s because they, themselves, feel inadequate.
Because if they could fly, they wouldn’t be so concerned with making sure you didn’t.
But that’s not your problem.It has nothing to do with you.
So don’t let anyone tear your wings. Fly high!
This really resonated with me. Good for you for holding your ground. This person was toxic and you were wise to move on. are you still friendly with the person who gave you the ultimatum?
Oh yes. There aren’t many people in my life who fall into that avoidance category (thank God) but I’ve learned to keep a big distance for those who do. We sense when someone just doesn’t wish us well. I’ve learned to listen to that voice.
Thank you for this today, Carol!
“This isn’t your circus and those aren’t your monkeys” and “Those who try to tear your wings, don’t know how to fly, themselves”. Two beautiful (and very accurate) quotes for my Wednesday morning.
Some things (and some people) we simply can’t change. We’ve tried. And tried. And now it’s time to let go and move on.
Such good advice!
“Not everything can be resolved and that’s ok.” So true. Sometimes it’s best just to step away and avoid stirring the pot!
I love this! It’s so true. Thanks so much for posting. It’s more difficult when the people who can’t fly are related to you.