Trust who you are. Sounds easy, right? But not so fast.
We lose confidence when others act out against us. Say mean things. Act unkindly.
Sometimes, we feel unprepared to make decisions, especially big ones.
Or we don’t get the validation we think we need.
Trust –in ourselves–can be difficult. And yet, trust we must.
This came to mind a while ago while talking with a young client whose significant other refused to validate something she’d gone through.
“He’s not taking it seriously,” the client told me.
I felt that pain.
“It’s enough,” I told them, “that YOU know it and validate yourself. Everyone has their own journey. They aren’t at the same place you are. They are unable to validate you and that’s ok. But that took ME decades to understand.”
It did take me that long. And sometimes I do waver a bit. Just a little, because at this stage of my life I do trust myself. Most of the time. 😉
Confidence. Trust. It’s a big step and sometimes a giant leap. But trust in ourselves is a necessary part of human development and good mental health.
How about you? Have you learned to trust yourself and what led you there?
I have and I also recognize my limitations but that does not take the hurt away from the others who do not validate your opinion, especially when they are an important part of your life.
Even if you think you don’t know you. Believe on yourself. Trust yourself. This is a wonderful quote. Thanks for sharing.
That self-trust has increased with age. I wish I would have started listening to my gut earlier.
Trusting in yourself is so important. Reading this makes us remember that!
I’ve always have had trust in myself. I only have trust issue with others.I’m working through it.
trusting in yourself is essential. you need to build up the confidence 🙂 it opens up new opportunities
Trusting myself in every aspect of my life is more difficult than it seems. While some parts are easier for me to openly trust myself others I still am unsure of. I think this will be a lifelong battle for me
I think for me trust in myself is something that I have and still strive to find for within myself. I’m pretty sure it maybe a life long journey, while I trust myself in certain areas of my life not all areas I do.
This is so very true, believing in yourself is such an important life lesson!
Trusting yourself is really important in making big decisions in life. Learning that confidence and trust in yourself is all worth it.
It definitely takes time because we’re all so used to trying to win someone’s approval. We were all raised to try to fit in, somehow that sticks to us for a long time before we realize that it’s all about trusting who we are instead of forcing to be someone we’re not. Such a valuable message.
I completely agree with this, trusting ourselves is the key to confidence and contentment, but it is actually very difficult to achieve. We need to work on ourselves but we always focus on others.
I’m the worst at trusting my instincts and always second guess myself! This post definitely hits home for sure!
I love this. It took me a long time, but I do trust myself and have learned that I don’t need validation from anyone but myself. As long as I love me, I’m good.
It took a long time for me to start trusting my decisions. I used to have so much self-doubt but it is something I worked on over the years.
I trust myself when my mind is clear. if my mind is not clear I would rather delay a major decision while I think things through.
So true! I am always telling my kids that trusting in yourself only brings you great things. A world of opportunity opens when you really trust yourself. Everyone else suddenly trusts you too
I have finally learned to trust myself, but it took some time. I think we all need time and life experience to really understand that we need to trust in ourselves.
Hate to say it, but I’m still learning to trust my gut. Most time I go with it, but some times I don’t and wish i had.
This resonates so deeply with me right now! Trust in yourself and the process… that is important lessons. Thank you for sharing your insights
I feel that through the trials and tribulations we all go through in life will either allow us to trust ourselves or continue not trusting ourselves. It’s how we rise above those that gives us that trust. Just my thoughts.
So very true. If you don’t believe in yourself, others won’t either