It’s easy to say “everything happens for a reason” but it can be really hard to connect with the greater meaning, especially when bad things happen. I am reminded of the late Baba Ram Dass, who often said that his stroke was actually a gift that gave him another way to serve people. A stroke of inspiration, he said, and grace.
I’m not sure most of us would see it that way.
But what if we did?
What if we saw everything that happens to us as opportunities? Is life really random? Or is there greater meaning in the things that happen?
How often have we been inspired by someone’s response to their health challenges?
Or their response to widowhood?
Has a loved one’s illness propelled you to reach out in ways you hadn’t before?
Have your own tough times been a catalyst for helping others?
You get the drift. Loss is hard. Any kind: death, job loss, health loss, the loss we are feeling now of our way of life as we shelter in place.
Loss is also an opportunity.
A chance for us to reach out, either for support or to give support. It can be the spark for a different way of life.
“I just don’t know what this illness is supposed to be teaching me,” my dear friend once said to me.
“Ah,” I responded. “Maybe the lesson isn’t for you at all. Maybe it’s for the rest of us.”