When we feel fear, we may have a general idea of what it’s about about — but few of us linger there to delve deeply into the root. Or to really assess how realistic the fear is.
Often, fear is a reflex action, involuntary and automatic in response to some stimulus. Knee-jerk fear.
Such was the case when I was told I needed surgery earlier this year. All of the scary things that could happen ran through my mind. I won’t enumerate them because that might be a trigger for someone (like me). But trust me. I thought of them all.
Unlike other times I’ve faced scary things, this time I stopped and asked myself, “how likely is this to happen?“
That was an unknown, because random things do happen. Can happen.
So my next question was, “what if it did?”
Long ago a therapist suggested I ask myself “what’s the worst that could happen?“
And even though there are many “worsts,” just the idea of calling them rationally out helped.
I used it many times to handle my dread when preparing for a visit to my dysfunctional family.
So when there’s something stressful coming up, ask yourself, What’s the worst that can happen?
And play it out. In most cases, it will help tremendously.
If you’d like some help with this, contact me about an intuitive discussion session or perhaps some hypnotherapy.
My daughter taught me to do this. Amazing how much it helps!
We are contemplating a move. And yes, I will ask myself–what’s the worst that can happen. Thanks.
Well sadly I did learn what is the worst that can happen after my first surgery, Luckily the second one fixed it 5 years later. But I do like the idea of playing it out.
Yes. Addressing it directly does not guarantee it won’t happen, it just helps handle the early fears and play it out in advance. Hope you continue in good health!
I always have to tell myself to shut up and enjoy it. Yeah, something COULD happen, but what are the chances, really? Just do it, and if something happens, at least you went out with your boots on
I have done this in the past. But I was also taught to next ask myself what’s the best thing that can happen. It’ really helps to know that the worst is balanced by the best.
A good strategy I will try!