Grief support can be tricky.
It’s always hard to know how to lend support to loved ones who are grieving. I never like getting flowers because they seem celebratory and even cloying. In some cultures, a card and money are given. That doesn’t seem right, either. It’s not a wedding.
The best of all support options is to spend time with the person who is grieving. But sometimes, we’re too far away to do that. Sure, we can call, and that’s an especially nice thing to do after everyone has gone and the inevitable loneliness sets in. Calls are wonderful ways to show support.
When you can’t lend support in person
On top of that, though, and especially if you are distant, it’s nice to send a little something and that’s how I came up with these gentle, beautiful grief affirmation cards. They’re a thought a day for 50 days, meant to help folks honor and work through their grief.
Honoring grief means not pretending it goes away. It’s accepting grieving as part of life and finding a way to feel through it. These affirmations help folks do that.
There are 50 cards in a deck and some clients tell me they pull the deck out each time they suffer a loss because the thoughts on the cards are so helpful.
The affirmations can be used as a meditation thought or just something to think about each morning and throughout the day.
Pretty inside and out
They come in a pretty, lavender organza bag and are compact enough to fit in a pocket or handbag.
The cards are included in my two condolence gift packages but can also be purchased separately. At $14.95, they are super-affordable. And through the weekend, shipping on the grief affirmation deck is absolutely free.
You can find the cards here on this site, and for free shipping through Sunday night enter the checkout code Cards.
These cards are such a beautiful idea, Carol. You are right – unless you have been through something similar, it is darn near impossible to know what to say. In some ways, I count losing my father at 25 as a blessing in this regard, because it’s made me a much more compassionate adult – I get it when people are grieving, especially if their grief is complicated by (say) relief (as mine was) that the suffering of a loved one is over.
I love these cards and have sent them out in the past. The person that I send them to put them on her mantel so that visitors who were also affected by the loss of her daughter could benefit from them too.
It’s so tough when you don’t know what to say, and because everyone deals with stuff in their own way it’s difficult to gauge whether they want to talk or not… these cards are a lovely idea!
I think these cards are such a lovely idea. It’s often difficult to try to find any words at all to say.
The cards are such a thoughtful gift. Really shows you care at such s difficult time.
I think these cards are a lovely gesture. I find grief very personal and these show you care, but are non-intrusive. Perfect.
Sometimes it is difficult to know exactly what would bring comfort – the cards, I think, are a lovely idea. When my dad died in February 2017, on the day of their wedding anniversary in June I sent my mum flowers and a “Thinking Of You “ card … my mum used to be pretty loveydovey about their wedding anniversary and they would have been married 55 years on that day.