Who in your life is carrying a heavy burden and could use some relief, but maybe doesn’t know how to ask for help? If you’re like me, you’ve probably told them “Let me know how I can help” and meant it sincerely. I used to say that a lot. Without getting a response.
Why? Because often, people don’t know how to ask for something specific. It can feel awkward. So many of us, me included, find it hard to ask for help, even when we need it. Think about those suffering chronic illness, undergoing treatment, recently widowed, a caregiver…. and then think about how hard it is to ask for help.
When I finally figured that out, I began making specific suggestions. “Can I bring over dinner Monday night?” Or I’d just bring the dinner. “I’ve got a pot of soup for you.”
Other ideas: “Can I walk the dog for you this weekend?” “Do you want to come to the grocery store with me this afternoon?” “Can I go with you to chemo?” “Can I take you to treatment?” You get the picture. You may not realize how much your one kind gesture can mean to someone carrying a heavy load.
And then, what if everyone stepped up in kindness? What if that happened?
If you know someone who is facing a big challenge of any kind and you want to help, the best thing you can do is offer specific assistance. Because, as my favorite Beatles lyric points, out, we get by with a little help from our friends.
What if a loved one lives too far away for you to offer practical help?
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THese are great suggestions. Instead of offering to help, offer up a concrete plan of action. I like it!
Let me know how it works out!
So very true and I’ve been in the “Let me know if I can help” abyss myself. Should be more proactive, as per your suggestions!
I think you will be happy with the results!
I had never thought of being more specific…what did I believe an offer of some mythical help was going to solve. Thank you Carol.
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We are all learning every day.
Such a useful post. Some people really do have difficulty accepting help. I love your suggestions. Thanks!