Don’t let knee-jerk fear rob you of joy and peace

Don’t let knee-jerk fear rob you of joy and peace

worst-that-can-happenWhen we feel fear, we may have a general idea of what it’s about about —  but few of us linger there to delve deeply into the root. Or to really assess how realistic the fear is.

Often, fear is a reflex action, involuntary and automatic in response to some stimulus. Knee-jerk fear.

Such was the case when I was told I needed surgery earlier this year. All of the scary things that could happen ran through my mind. I won’t enumerate them because that might be a trigger for someone (like me). But trust me. I thought of them all.

Unlike other times I’ve faced scary things, this time I stopped and asked myself, “how likely is this to happen?

That was an unknown, because random things do happen. Can happen.

So my next question was, “what if it did?”

Long ago a therapist suggested I ask myself “what’s the worst that could happen?

And even though there are many “worsts,” just the idea of calling them rationally out helped.

I used it many times to handle my dread when preparing for a visit to my dysfunctional family.

So when there’s something stressful coming up, ask yourself, What’s the worst that can happen?

And play it out. In most cases, it will help tremendously.

If you’d like some help with this, contact me about an intuitive discussion session or perhaps some hypnotherapy.