No one has grieved harder than me. Those are the words that just came off my keyboard. And then, a second later, I thought about grieving parents. And that grief isn't a contest. It just isn't. We all grieve as hard as we need to and as long as we need to. That's truth. Mom's been gone 20 ... read more
Why an early death is a tragedy even when it’s a blessing
20 years. That's how long it's been since my mother left this earth. 20 years. I still grieve. She no longer crosses my mind every single day, but most days, yes, thoughts of her come up and I grieve her loss. Her way too early death. Her friends thought she was a saint--most of them, ... read more
Staring death in the eye
No one likes to consider death, much less read about it, something I thought about as I wrote this post--I don't want you to instantly click "close!" But I learned something recently about staring death in the eye, something that might help you: There aren't many things scarier, for most of us. And ... read more
Why it’s not such a bad thing that our lives disappear
It isn't until we've suffered a great loss that we see our mortality close up and personal. Right now, we're writing the story of our lives, but we can not grasp that it's in disappearing ink. And then, a loved one makes their transition and sometimes it can feel like "What happened? Where did he ... read more
Make peace with death
Make peace with death? That's a radical idea. But it's one that I've been working on since I began this business. Or maybe I've been working on it my entire life. This changed my view of many things: of grief and also of my own fears about mortality. I happen to think it's pretty profound ... read more