Do you think we’re on the eve of destruction?

Do you think we’re on the eve of destruction?

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{ I wrote this. months ago, BC, but it applies even more today. }

Every time I hear Barry McGuire’s song, The Eve of Destruction, it feels like we’re there right this minute. As I’m sure he felt in 1965 when he wrote it. The song addresses racism, injustice, hypocrisy–all things we’re still dealing with some 55 years later. We’re a nation badly in need of healing. More now than ever.

Maybe it’s just the way of the world, to be always teetering on the edge of doing ourselves in.

Here’s what I know: I can’t remember a time in my life when there was more anxiety. Real anxiety. Clinical anxiety.

So let’s break down McGuire’s message and weigh it against the world today:

Don’t you understand, what I’m trying to say?
And can’t you feel the fear that I’m feeling today?

Take a look around you, boy, it’s bound to scare you, boy,
But you tell me over and over and over again my friend,
Ah, you don’t believe we’re on the eve of destruction.

Fear. Anxiety is rooted in fear. A lot of people look around and are fearful these days. People of all stripes. And for all reasons. Corona virus. Undocumented immigrants. Loss of privilege. These are very real fears. Real to the people who feel them.

Clever politicians use these fears to get (or remain) in power. Is there anything scarier than the idea of an “illegal immigrant” raping and murdering? No matter that the actual facts show that illegal immigrants do not commit more crimes than U.S. citizens. And unscrupulous politicians use that fear to get in office and use it continually to bolster their support. Fake facts. “Alternate” facts. It’s mind-boggling how they depend on keeping us in fear.

Yeah, my blood’s so mad, feels like coagulatin’,
I’m sittin’ here, just contemplatin’,
I can’t twist the truth, it knows no regulation,
Handful of Senators don’t pass legislation,

Well, it’s true. The Senate’s holding up bills passed by the House. Power. It’s about power. Nothing more. Nothing less.

And marches alone can’t bring integration,
When human respect is disintegratin’,

This is another part of today’s world that makes me shake my head. All the integration efforts and civil rights legislation during my lifetime haven’t paid off in a fairer world. We are just as bigoted as we ever were. It’s mind-boggling.

This whole crazy world is just too frustratin’,
And you tell me over and over and over again my friend,
Ah, you don’t believe we’re on the eve of destruction.

I’ve cried in frustration. Have you?

Think of all the hate there is in Red China!
Then take a look around to Selma, Alabama!
Ah, you may leave here, for eight days in space,
But when you return, it’s the same old place,

That upsets me the most: It’s the same old place. Nothing significant has changed. In some ways, it might even be worse. Will corona be the catalyst for real change? I hope it is and I’m afraid it won’t.

The poundin’ of the drums, the pride and disgrace,
You can bury your dead, but don’t leave a trace,
Hate your next door neighbor, but don’t forget to say grace,

Ah, the hypocrisy of fundamental Christians. Ecumenical Christians. Whose behavior bears not the slightest resemblance to what Christ taught. Oh, it’s not just mind-boggling. It’s shocking. Because it shows us how ignorant these folks are. Just plain ignorant. Gullible. So gullible. And easy to control.

And you tell me over and over and over and over again my friend,
Ah, you don’t believe we’re on the eve of destruction.

I’m not so sure how our country will get the healing it so badly needs. I just don’t know.

Here’s the song.

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Can we really calm our fears?

Can we really calm our fears?

The short answer is “Yes.” And here are some suggested ways:

You might be wondering if it’s really possible to manage fear right now, because it’s the toughest fear of all: of death.

Is there anything more terrifying than coming face to face with our own mortality?  It’s now something each one of us faces.

In our modern world we’re used to having a solution to most things. But this is different.

It’s not unprecedented, either. These “plagues” have happened throughout history. Just not in a very long time. It’s unfamiliar territory. So it’s no wonder we’re facing a national anxiety attack.

There’s no instant way to calm how we feel. But consider this: most of our fear is knee-jerk—automatic. We don’t stop to think through–rationally– how likely the worst case scenario really is.

I don’t have a magic bullet to manage fear. It takes being proactive (as in actually working to manage it) and also being aware enough to not let our fears run away with our emotions. Some reminders about how we can get through this.

Faith

If you’ve got it, lean on it. I try to access the calm I had going into my surgery this year, in which my faith assured me there could be no bad outcomes. This was the first time in my life I’d leaned on faith and it didn’t let me down.

Stay away from the news

Glance at headlines but don’t feed into the bad news frenzy which fosters more and more anxiety. I don’t need to know about more people dying, how they die, the risk factors for death or anything else. I know to stay home, to maintain hygiene and physical distance. A glance at headlines will tell me anything I need to know. Or my husband will.

Be busy or not

Sometimes we just need to space out on nothing, play with pets, take naps, watch mindless videos. If you feel like being busy, do it but there’s no obligation. Some of us can’t focus enough to get stuff accomplished. We get a pass.

Don’t fixate on the worst happening

If you do, it’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture. Try to let things flow. Note what is passing through your mind and make a choice about what you want to do with that. If you want to focus on anything focus on the love you see around you. Because I’ll bet there’s plenty.

Focus on what we have

Don’t focus on what we don’t have in our life right now. Focus on what we do have.

Life is different. It’s natural to miss our familiar routines and activities. Avoid focusing on what’s missing and instead focus on what we have: time and plenty of it. To do something or to do nothing. It’s our choice.

Avoid adding anti-anxiety meds if you can

If you take them regularly don’t stop, but if you don’t, this is the time to try to manage anxiety naturally.

Try my free downloadable audio for managing anxiety that can relax you easily. It’s guided imagery. Listen daily, using earbuds but not while driving or doing anything else. Find it here.

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How aging impacts your healing

How aging impacts your healing

patiencePatience. Not my long suit. But It’s something we need to have more of as we age no matter how it’s applied.

As I write, I am more than five weeks out from a complete hysterectomy. Even though I had the big abdominal incision, I expected to spring back quickly. To heal as easily as I did when I had a similar incision 30 years ago.

Not so fast, Carol!

Even though my hotshot surgeon, male,  told me at two weeks I was cleared to do any activity –including aerobics!–I thought he was insane. He hadn’t even examined me, for one, and for two, I could barely walk two blocks without discomfort. My incision was brewing a bacterial infection, as well, and he knew that his PA had given me antibiotics for it.  An aerobics class would clearly have landed me in the hospital again. He was…clueless.

But by five weeks out, I figured I’d be healed. So I saw my GYN, who assisted at the surgery. Who actually took a look.

“You’re not healed yet,” she said, definitively, as she peered in.

“Why is that?” I asked.

“Age,” she responded. “You just don’t heal as fast when you are older.”

So add that to the list of unexpected consequences of aging. I suppose it should have been obvious that at almost 68 my body wouldn’t spring back as rapidly as when I was 38. But truly, I didn’t expect recovery to linger.

Patience. As I age I am learning that it’s a trait that comes in handy. But it’s hard for me to practice.

Wish me luck. And let me know if you know the secret to exercising patience.

Oh and if you’d like to explore how hypnotherapy might help with whatever ails you, schedule an informational call with the purple button on my hypnotherapy page.

Should you just take a pill?

Should you just take a pill?

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It IS easier to just take a pill when something ails us. Anxiety, pain–whatever the problem is, one swallow and poof! It’s gone. At least for a period of time.

But is it the best thing?

I say “no.”  I don’t like putting things into my body. Even over-the-counter pain relievers like acetamin0phen. and ibuprofen have gnarly potential side effects, especially to the liver. If you could have no harmful side effects and get the same result with hypnotherapy, why wouldn’t you give it try?

For both me and my husband, hypnotherapy was our post-surgery pain relief method of choice.  And it worked. I use it still any time something is wrong. And it works.

It’s not as easy as just swallowing a pill, but it is certainly safer.

Someone once told me “I don’t believe in hypnotherapy.”  Seriously? Uhh, dude. It’s not a religion.

But the fact is that if you do not think it will work, it won’t work. Because the brain is that powerful. Which is why it’s powerful enough to manage pain. You follow?

A stranger cold-called me a few months ago and said he and friends were looking to engage a hypnotherapist for a friend so they could prove to that friend that hypnotherapy worked.  I was taken aback. I responded that no ethical hypnotherapist would do this because the fact is, if the friend didn’t believe it worked, it wouldn’t work.

But just that fact illustrates how it DOES work.

It’s not magic. It’s using the brain. The mind. The subconscious.

I am certain that one day in the future, hypnotherapy will be commonly used in medicine. But not yet. Not while Big Pharma has a grip on physicians and the medical establishment. Not as long as there are big profits to be made in keeping patients dependent on drugs.

So here I sit, hypnotherapy skills at the ready. If you’re interested in talking about if and how it could help you, schedule a 15 minute call with me using the purple button on my hypnotherapy page. No harm in talking, right?

How this anxiety-ridden hot mess is managing a cancer scare

How this anxiety-ridden hot mess is managing a cancer scare

cancer-scareMost anxiety is a knee-jerk reaction to something we fear

and often fails to withstand any kind of critical analysis. I know this because I’ve just lived it.

Some random spotting caused me to see my GYN, who did an in-office ultrasound and, to my surprise, saw something “suspicious”. Until now, I’d felt safe, because there is almost no cancer in my family. But this made me quite anxious. After all, many of my friends have gone through cancer treatment or even died from it. White Coat Hypertension –or “high blood pressure at the doctor’s office” is the least of my anxiety problems when it comes to a cancer scare.

I approached the “official” ultrasound she ordered with ENORMOUS anxiety. Of course, I imagined the worst as I heard the tech clicking to take photographs of everything she saw. And the whole thing took forever.

cancer-scareWould they find the worst?

It showed an unusual thickening of the endometrium that could be “the bad thing” so my GYN wanted an in-office biopsy.

At that point you’d think my anxiety would be off the charts. Instead, it went completely away. Why was that?

When I meditated on my nervousness I realized that my anxiety would have no impact on the outcome. I either had cancer or I didn’t. Worrying wasn’t going to help or even change things.

Practicing what I preach

Before this, those had just been words. But now, in my meditation, I took them in. I wasn’t going to die tomorrow. And wouldn’t I be a complete hypocrite to fear death when I believe that we do not die, but simply transition to a different plane?

I know. Heavy thoughts. But they were super calming, simply because, with a little effort, I brought my thoughts in line with my beliefs.

I also enlisted the group of earthly angels I know—friends who sent out love and light, my two Reiki masters, my shaman friend and just about everyone in my luckily large spiritual support group. I felt completely loved and supported in moving forward.

cancer-scare

Click photo to see my healing crystal candles.

Yes, the crystal thing

Selecting the best healing crystals from my collection, I carried them with me to all appointments. I had been doing healing meditations for days. I used my healing affirmations. I wore all my healing jewelry. I BELIEVE all this stuff helps and so, of course, it did.

Plus I thought about the many people I know who are living with cancer that is being controlled by treatment.

Here’s the best part: my blood pressure, normally sky-high in situations like this, was normal. NORMAL. So if that’s all this stuff did for me? It’s a big thing!

As it turned out, my GYN couldn’t complete the in-house biopsy.

How I managed pain

Her attempts were not pain-free. Any woman who has had a uterine biopsy knows what I mean.

But just that morning a good friend had revealed that in the numerous serious pain situations she’d experienced recently, she’d consistently used my pain relief recording. Like my husband related in HIS story, she was  offered pain meds like crazy but she kept responding “I have no pain!” Because she was using the audio and used her mind to let the pain go. “It works!” she told me. “It really works.”

So I did that, too. After all, why wouldn’t I practice what I preach? I put in my earbuds and let my GYN do her thing—it worked: my pain was minimal. Here’s where to find the audio and more info.

Still, she couldn’t complete the biopsy.

“I suspect it’s a benign polyp,” she said, “but we need to do an in-hospital biopsy it to be sure.”

Don’t you love it when they give you “your options?”

Blood pressure still normal, I listened to my options.  There were two: I could be admitted to the hospital for a D&C and biopsy under anesthesia, a same-day-home procedure. Then I would probably have a hysterectomy at a later date: my choice. I want everything that could be a future problem GONE.

OR we could move right to a hysterectomy with a GYN-oncology surgeon assisting my doc. They’d take it out, do a frozen section and if it was benign they’d proceed one way and if it wasn’t, another way. With the surgical oncologist right there.

I didn’t see any reason to go under twice. I’d already mentioned I wanted a complete hysterectomy, simply because too many of my friends have had a GYN cancer. I wanted it all gone. One less worry.

Surgery in my future

So when I return from my trip to Egypt in early April I’ll have a hysterectomy. I expect to be pain-free and anxiety-free. And here’s how I’ll make sure of it:

I will listen to healing meditations. I will ask my Reiki masters to support me. I will ask my shaman friend to do his thing. I will make sure my support circle knows time and date and I know I won’t even have to ask them to send positive vibes. I will use my crystals and healing crystal candles. I will use my own affirmations. I will use my own surgery prep, recovery, pain management and anxiety management audios.

And mostly I will trust that the Universe has my back, just like I blogged the other day. The Universe has my back and your back—all we have to do is trust.

If you’re facing a scare of your own, I’m here for you. Many of you already know that, but for those who don’t, trust that I am. Just shoot me an email at ccassara (at)gmail.com and we’ll talk.

And here are some helpful links:

Find my healing affirmations here.

Find audios for surgery prep, recovery, to relieve pain and anxiety here.

Find my healing crystal candles here.