Comments on: What should we do with those Why did this happen to me? feelings?

By: Susan F

Susan F — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 19:44:47 +0000

When I start asking “Why me” it is usually when things have not gone well for me. I try to remind myself that others have it worse than me. That usually puts things in perspective. We are less likely to ask “why me” when good things happen, but this question certainly can apply to those situations as well.

By: Tom from Sightings

Tom from Sightings — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 19:11:14 +0000

Unlike Karen, I am so grateful that I live in modern times when there is so much LESS corruption, greed, violence and hate in the world. No Jim Crow laws, no World Wars, no polio, less crime, more safety, longer lifespans, etc., etc. etc. But it’s true, bad things can still happen. The version of the quote I know is attributed to Arthur Ashe, tennis champion who died of AIDS from a blood transfusion: “If I were to say ‘God, why me?’ about the bad things, then I should have said, ‘God, why me?’ about the good things that happened in my life.”

By: Carol

Carol — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 17:13:55 +0000

In reply to Diane. Your attitude is so beautiful, my friend.

By: Carol

Carol — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 17:13:35 +0000

In reply to Lee Gaitan. I am so happy to hear this. I have been there, too. I have been doing some work on 'what if' now...

By: Carol

Carol — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 17:13:07 +0000

In reply to Karen Austin. I do have hope ...although sometimes I can't get at it. But it always returns.

By: Karen Austin

Karen Austin — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 16:46:47 +0000

This is a little bit of a slide off the topic, but lately I feel overwhelmed by the amount of corruption, greed, violence and hate in the world. I am probably spending too much time reading news stories via Twitter. (Today it was an older Asian woman in NYC jumped in front of guards who did nothing…well, except close a church door on her.) I do think there are many individual people who are decent. But in the aggregate, people STINK! So it’s not “Why Me?” as much as “Why do so many people stink?” But I like the tone of your blog posts. You are a realist with hope. I should probably spend some time reading some of your back log as a way to witness that not all humans are depraved!

By: Lee Gaitan

Lee Gaitan — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 16:06:31 +0000

I’m having a little different “why me” feelings today. I had a breast biopsy last week and am so grateful that it was benign and all is well. And I can’t stop thinking about so many of my friends, some still here, some not, who got the opposite news. Why them? It’s a bigger question than I have answers for. You’re right, we have to trust.

By: Diane

Diane — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 15:17:16 +0000

I am in the first school. That nothing is random and everything happens for a reason. Instead of lamenting (though I do that, too!) I look for that reason.
When my sweet Mom was fading from us through the effects of Parkinson’s, we just couldn’t fathom why this would happen to her. Then we saw the effect on our dad. How Mr. Impatience became infinitely more patient and helpful and kind. It was actually quite beautiful.
Now, instead of thinking, Why Me? I answer with Why Not Me? And then look for what I can learn!